Okay, so I’m all for women’s rights and standing up for girls but we all know there are many negatives to being a girl . We all know being a girl is generally quite bloody difficult , especially a teenage girl surrounded by unrealistic expectations and full of emotions we don’t know how to deal with.So when other girls decide to try and cause trouble , spread nasty rumours , attention seek etc , it really doesn’t make life an easier. So here are 7 of the things that I hate about girls …
- Drama, drama and drama
Out of boys and girls, it’s well known that girls are the most likely to have arguments . If boys fall out they may have a slight scuffle and then get over it but when girls fall out it’s like World War 3 ! It doesn’t end after one argument , it just goes on for ages and then just seems to get worse and worse ,as all other girls feel the need to get involved – even the ones who you don’t normally talk to. The arguments are normally really petty and start over literally nothing and just escalate into something so terrible . I honestly can’t be bothered with any of the drama . I know many girls who seem to enjoy stirring and causing trouble and making girls feel so worthless and unsure of themselves and I hate it.
- Snakes aka back stabbing bitches
You girls all know what I mean by ‘snakes’ , we’ve all experienced at least one in our life and these are the girls we all try to avoid.Those girls who make you question your trust , as you put everything into your friendship , for them to just turn right around and stab you right in the back. When you least expect it .And then people wonder why we have trust issues…
- Putting other girls down
Being a girl is difficult enough without another girl putting you down , like we all go through periods , we’re all expected to look perfect and pretend to be happy and calm all the time. Sometimes we’re not and then when another girl starts commenting or whispering about you it really doesn’t help. Everyone has their insecurities and when someone kindly decides to point them out it makes you feel even worse. Basically all I’m saying is THERE’S NO NEED ,LIKE EVER! Us girls need to support each other and be more positive like ‘yass girl your eyebrows are slaying today’ not like ‘ew her eyebrows look like slugs wtf’. NO NEED!
- Attention seeking
It really bugs me how basically every teenage girl seems to always be complaining about their weight like even the skinniest of people. On their sc stories they post pictures of them basically in their bra and extremely short shorts , and then the next day at school they stand in front of the mirror and start complaining about how fat they are. You feel inclined to say ‘you’re not fat’ and that’s all they’re doing it for , is for attention. It’s really obvious they don’t think they’re overweight because otherwise they wouldn’t have somuch confidence to post pictures like that. It’s not just weight though, girls attention seek over its things like periods , mental illnesses and boy drama. It’s so annoying! Like we all have our own problems to deal with so we don’t need to hear about your issues when all you want is attention and compliments!
- Trying to be popular
The aim of high school for most girls is to be popular and you probably know the cliche groups :the populars, the wannabe populars , the ‘freaks/weirdos’ , the quiet ones , the nerds etc. Almost everyone wants to be popular and get the popular girls approval ,therefore they go to great lengths to try and achieve it ,like : having a handbag , the same coat as all the popular girls , wearing loads of makeup to school (you get the gist). If you’re not in the populars you get judged so much and labelled , so almost everyone tries so hard . I understand why girls do it but I gave up a long time ago , I’m not a popular but I have loads of friends and I love them to pieces , I don’t honestly care if I don’t get boyfriends easily or get hundreds of likes on Instagram . I’m happy. I just wish all girls didn’t care so much and just focused on being happy instead of what others think of them.
Let’s face it . Most of girls bitchiness is caused by jealousy . Someone has always got something what you want , maybe they have the latest phone , more expensive makeup , better figure , nicer hair , you know what I mean. Sometimes jealousy turns into bitterness and this makes some girls get nasty and start giving you a hard time just because they’re just jealous. Therefore they’ll spread rumours about you and make comments to try and make you doubt yourself and put you down . So what if someone has something you want , if everyone had the same thing it’d be boring.
As a girl we have high expectations from literally everyone and also to each other. We can’t be slightly overweight because then we’re really greedy and fat but we can’t be too thin because otherwise we’re anorexic . We can’t cry if we need to , because we’re just being over emotional and hormonal or ‘it’s that time of the month’ but if we pretend we’re fine and nothing’s wrong we’re a cold hearted bitch . We can’t not wear makeup because if we do we’re not trying and are ugly but if we wear ‘too much’ makeup we’re fake and trying too hard. See the pattern? Everything we do is wrong .And some girls instead of supporting each other , are SO judgemental and then wonder why , the person doesn’t talk a lot or is really self conscience. Everyone would be a lot happier and more care free if there was no high expectations and people just embraced their imperfections and not cared about what others think as long as they’re happy.
Let’s face it , if a man acted to a woman the way women sometimes act with each other ,it would be classed as sexism but it seems acceptable for women to treat each other like that? I don’t understand . If we as women want to be treated equally and not be judged as much , we should start being a lot more supportive of each other and more positive , instead of being so negative and judgmental all the time. Try giving at least one compliment a day to anyone around you and trust me , it will increase their confidence and make you feel so much happier about yourself!!
‘Throw kindness around like it is confetti’- Zoella